THANK YOU IS JUST NOT ENOUGH FOR WHAT ALL OF YOU HAVE GIVEN AND DONE FOR ROGER, ME AND OUR FAMILY. THE FOOD, THE OUTPOURING OF LOVE AND PRAYERS, THE FLOWERS AND CONTRIBUTIONS TO HOSPICE AND TO JUNIOR GOLF......WHAT CAN I SAY....IT WAS JUST THE MOST SPECTACULAR, OVERWHELMING AND LOVING SERVICE ANDE RECEPTION THAT I HAVE EVER WITNESSED.
YOU ALL KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU MEANT TO ROGER IN HIS EARLY YEARS AS WELL AS IN HIS LAST YEARS ON EARTH. HOLD TIGHT TO THOSE SPECIAL MEMORIES OF HIM AND NEVER LET THEM GO.
HE IS ALL OF OUR SPECIAL ANGEL AND I ALONG WITH ALL OF YOU WILL MISS HIM SO VERY VERY MUCH.
PLEASE KEEP IN TOUCH...I WOULD LIKE THAT
WITH A BROKEN BUT LOVING HEART.....DIANNE TORBECK
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Saturday, January 15, 2011
Roger's celebration of Life
Services will be held at 1:00 pm Wednesday, January 19th at Lifebridge Christian Church with Reverend Carol Nichols officiating.....Interment will follow at Footlhills Gardens of Memory . Gathering with food and memories will be held at Twin Peaks Golf Course Clubhouse. All are welcome to come after the ceremony.
Roger passed away on Jan 14th at 6:38 AM at our home with me and Dean and the family. He was no longer in pain after we brought him back home on Tuesday from the Hospice facility in Louisville.
Thank you, everyone for all of your prayers and love these past few months and years for Roger and myself. We love all of you.
Many of you ask what you can do. The gathering at Twin Peaks is a Pot Luck and you are welcome to bring any of your dishes there. They will begin accepting them on Tuesday. If you have any questions you may direct them to Helen Vela at Twin Peaks 303-709-2611......
Roger passed away on Jan 14th at 6:38 AM at our home with me and Dean and the family. He was no longer in pain after we brought him back home on Tuesday from the Hospice facility in Louisville.
Thank you, everyone for all of your prayers and love these past few months and years for Roger and myself. We love all of you.
Many of you ask what you can do. The gathering at Twin Peaks is a Pot Luck and you are welcome to bring any of your dishes there. They will begin accepting them on Tuesday. If you have any questions you may direct them to Helen Vela at Twin Peaks 303-709-2611......
Friday, January 14, 2011
Roger's fight is over
Our Roger won his fight !! ! !not lost his fight with cancer.....this morning January 14, 2011......at 6:38 am....He fought hard and I mean hard for these past five years, but it was nothing like the final round....and..... HE WON ! ! ! !
God Bless Him.
Arrangements will be made today sometime and we will let you all know when his celebration of life will be.
The family was together, Ken, John, Gert, Chad, Jeff, Dianne and KARI......Kari is my niece and is a CNA. Roger and she had a special bond. She was here with us the entire week, helped us with Roger's care along side Hospice, after he got home from the Hospice center. I just want to say....GOD BLESS KARI too ! ! !
God Bless Him.
Arrangements will be made today sometime and we will let you all know when his celebration of life will be.
The family was together, Ken, John, Gert, Chad, Jeff, Dianne and KARI......Kari is my niece and is a CNA. Roger and she had a special bond. She was here with us the entire week, helped us with Roger's care along side Hospice, after he got home from the Hospice center. I just want to say....GOD BLESS KARI too ! ! !
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Roger's Fight Almost Over
Roger has taken a turn and we were not able to keep his extreme pain under control at home yesterday so we were advised to go to the Hospice care center in Louisville on Monday....He is now resting much more comfortably with a continuous pain pump and he is in and out of consciousness.
I will try to keep you all updated as much as possible, but my time will be spent with him and making sure that he is comfortable and loved.
I am taking him back to our house and hospice said if that is his wish then "so be it" and I want that also....He will go by ambulance and we will make him comfortable at home.
He really is not accepting any company now. Roger's son and brother will be coming sooner than they had planned...as we just don't know for sure how many weeks or days he has here with all of us.
God bless the days we have with him.... God bless the days we had with him ..... God bless him
Love Dianne
Monday, January 3, 2011
2011 Praying for Peace
Everyone's expression is to say Happy New Year, but what do you say to someone that has terminal cancer? You still say Happy New Year.
Roger and I made it thru this Holiday, but not without some tears and sadness.
We know that this was probably our last Christmas together here on earth and I think that Roger has finally come to grips with that. He is getting weaker by the moment and his legs will not support him like they used to and that makes him very upset. He has literally been down and could not get up without help. We thank our dear neighbors Patti and Mark for being there for us just when we needed them. I don't know if there is anything that can pick up Roger's heart right now, though. Dean, our cat, is his constant companion. Faithful, loving and loyal, laying by Roger's side all day, every day, making him smile and feel loved and warm and cozy. I wish I had that effect on him and I feel that I do most of the time, but he just doesn't want me to be down. Roger knows how stubborn I am and (by the way, so is he) I guess it is because we were both brought up in strong German homes with Lutheran backgrounds. We want to go down fighting this horrible disease that has taken our lives and really tested us. Most days we do pretty well and there are days we don't, I guess that is pretty normal, whatever normal is.
I am now and always have been Roger's liason. Hospice tells us that we are in charge of who Roger wants to spend time with. If he were a well man he would want a big party with all of you there.....but he just doesn't have enough energy now in his bank for that to happen. I hope all of you understand and that you will call me to see if the day permits company. Again, he is home bound now, sleeps alot more, but the good thing is, Hospice has his pain under control for now...it is the weakness and the frail bones that slow and worry him now.
You ask and wish if there would be something that you can do?.....just send him a note and reminise with him about you and he.....make him smile , laugh or even cry....all three are good for the soul. If he can no longer read I will read the notes to him.
Pray for HIS peace and for the peace of the world.
Lovingly, Dianne and Roger and Dean( the cat that is more of a dog)
Roger and I made it thru this Holiday, but not without some tears and sadness.
We know that this was probably our last Christmas together here on earth and I think that Roger has finally come to grips with that. He is getting weaker by the moment and his legs will not support him like they used to and that makes him very upset. He has literally been down and could not get up without help. We thank our dear neighbors Patti and Mark for being there for us just when we needed them. I don't know if there is anything that can pick up Roger's heart right now, though. Dean, our cat, is his constant companion. Faithful, loving and loyal, laying by Roger's side all day, every day, making him smile and feel loved and warm and cozy. I wish I had that effect on him and I feel that I do most of the time, but he just doesn't want me to be down. Roger knows how stubborn I am and (by the way, so is he) I guess it is because we were both brought up in strong German homes with Lutheran backgrounds. We want to go down fighting this horrible disease that has taken our lives and really tested us. Most days we do pretty well and there are days we don't, I guess that is pretty normal, whatever normal is.
I am now and always have been Roger's liason. Hospice tells us that we are in charge of who Roger wants to spend time with. If he were a well man he would want a big party with all of you there.....but he just doesn't have enough energy now in his bank for that to happen. I hope all of you understand and that you will call me to see if the day permits company. Again, he is home bound now, sleeps alot more, but the good thing is, Hospice has his pain under control for now...it is the weakness and the frail bones that slow and worry him now.
You ask and wish if there would be something that you can do?.....just send him a note and reminise with him about you and he.....make him smile , laugh or even cry....all three are good for the soul. If he can no longer read I will read the notes to him.
Pray for HIS peace and for the peace of the world.
Lovingly, Dianne and Roger and Dean( the cat that is more of a dog)
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
Hello everyone,
I thought that I would do kind of an update / Annual Holiday letter
I am trying to remember this season is not about me, not about Roger, not about anyone or thing except the child that was born on Christmas day to save us.
This Christmas I am more aware than ever it is not in the tree or the gifts we buy and give or the families that get together or don't get together. This season will come and go like they all do.
I would like to have all of you who read this take a small moment not think of Roger and I in a sorrowful way. We are making the most out of our time together, as small as it may be now. Roger's world gets smaller every day and he is slipping away from me and from you all. Please don't take the unreturned phone calls to heart.
You all know how much Roger loves his friends and he will continue to love you way beyond this and so will I.
Ken, Roger's son is here again to be with his Dad. Hospice will come this week and hopefully help his son understand this process of which we will all face at one time or another in our lives.
Roger's life is very simple now....He is loosing strength in his legs and pretty soon will not be able to walk.
As far as seeing him.....I urge you to call me and go thru me now......Feel free to call me 303-517-6324 cell. I will let you know his status.
People ask what they can do, but there is really nothing anyone can do, but to live their lives to the fullest.....easy to say hard to do......
Here's to Love in our hearts and hoping you all have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
Love forever...........Roger and Dianne
I thought that I would do kind of an update / Annual Holiday letter
I am trying to remember this season is not about me, not about Roger, not about anyone or thing except the child that was born on Christmas day to save us.
This Christmas I am more aware than ever it is not in the tree or the gifts we buy and give or the families that get together or don't get together. This season will come and go like they all do.
I would like to have all of you who read this take a small moment not think of Roger and I in a sorrowful way. We are making the most out of our time together, as small as it may be now. Roger's world gets smaller every day and he is slipping away from me and from you all. Please don't take the unreturned phone calls to heart.
You all know how much Roger loves his friends and he will continue to love you way beyond this and so will I.
Ken, Roger's son is here again to be with his Dad. Hospice will come this week and hopefully help his son understand this process of which we will all face at one time or another in our lives.
Roger's life is very simple now....He is loosing strength in his legs and pretty soon will not be able to walk.
As far as seeing him.....I urge you to call me and go thru me now......Feel free to call me 303-517-6324 cell. I will let you know his status.
People ask what they can do, but there is really nothing anyone can do, but to live their lives to the fullest.....easy to say hard to do......
Here's to Love in our hearts and hoping you all have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
Love forever...........Roger and Dianne
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
November ! ! Really?
Hi all,
Here it is November and the Holidays are Approaching. I wish that I could get excited about them and in my heart I know that I will, but in my soul....well it is aching for Roger.
He is "hanging in there" as the saying goes....he is not bedridden nor does he act really, really sick, but you know that he is on tons of pain meds now just to keep him from suffering horribly.
Hospice comes about once every two weeks and surveys everything. Roger always puts on a pretty good act for them....in my mind, I know he still wants to be that strong and confident man I married.
This November, marks this dreadful disease that he has been fighting, fifth year. Some of the months have been ok, but it absolutely stripped our marriage and took it to a much challenged level.
I struggel with knowing what to say and when...how to treat him....with confidence and hope? with pure blunt reality of what this disease is doing to him and to us? I just don't know! ! !
Roger still is not a complainer. He still gets visits from dear friends and family. This week all the way from Nebraska. His cousins Larry and Doreen came just to visit with him and Roger's Mom. Thanks for the Honey and the visit, Roger and I loved it !!!
A very loving and good friend just told me the other day that when her father was ill and dying he would get upset because he said he felt that every day that he was alive just made him that more longing for the life he used to have. Roger is kinda like a prisoner and his life and life experiences are very small now andI know feels that same way sometimes. People say he looks so good, but the reality is, he has lost about 40 pounds and granted he is very tan (from sitting outside and reading his millions of books) the CANCER is on the inside just eating away his life of doing anything, but sitting in a chair and reading to get away from the thought that he has cancer ....if only for a while in his mind.
We don't know how it has progressed other than the pain meds have been increased significantly in the last month.
His appetite goes up and down as does his attitude......I am so helpless in this struggle to make everything alright.
Again I just ask you to pray for peace and understanding
With love,
Dianne
Here it is November and the Holidays are Approaching. I wish that I could get excited about them and in my heart I know that I will, but in my soul....well it is aching for Roger.
He is "hanging in there" as the saying goes....he is not bedridden nor does he act really, really sick, but you know that he is on tons of pain meds now just to keep him from suffering horribly.
Hospice comes about once every two weeks and surveys everything. Roger always puts on a pretty good act for them....in my mind, I know he still wants to be that strong and confident man I married.
This November, marks this dreadful disease that he has been fighting, fifth year. Some of the months have been ok, but it absolutely stripped our marriage and took it to a much challenged level.
I struggel with knowing what to say and when...how to treat him....with confidence and hope? with pure blunt reality of what this disease is doing to him and to us? I just don't know! ! !
Roger still is not a complainer. He still gets visits from dear friends and family. This week all the way from Nebraska. His cousins Larry and Doreen came just to visit with him and Roger's Mom. Thanks for the Honey and the visit, Roger and I loved it !!!
A very loving and good friend just told me the other day that when her father was ill and dying he would get upset because he said he felt that every day that he was alive just made him that more longing for the life he used to have. Roger is kinda like a prisoner and his life and life experiences are very small now andI know feels that same way sometimes. People say he looks so good, but the reality is, he has lost about 40 pounds and granted he is very tan (from sitting outside and reading his millions of books) the CANCER is on the inside just eating away his life of doing anything, but sitting in a chair and reading to get away from the thought that he has cancer ....if only for a while in his mind.
We don't know how it has progressed other than the pain meds have been increased significantly in the last month.
His appetite goes up and down as does his attitude......I am so helpless in this struggle to make everything alright.
Again I just ask you to pray for peace and understanding
With love,
Dianne
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